Touching while sleeping.

Dear At the Fence:

This may seem stupid, but it's becoming an issue. Im 43 years old, so is my wife of 16 years. Our love life is great. I don't have a problem with hugging and snuggling. BUT when its time for sleep, I don't like to be touched.
I need to be on my own side, no spooning, no hands on hips, no head on my chest. I just need my space. My wife thinks I'm nuts. There has to be others like me. Any advice would be helpful.

THANKS IN ADVACE

No touching

Dear No Touching:

No, you're not the only one. Sleep is a very personal time and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be left alone while you sleep. People are different and it is obvious that your wife is the type that enjoys touching, even when asleep. You need to reassure your wife that you love her, even when you are asleep, but that it irritates you to be touched while you sleep. Make a deal with her: give her extra touching and holding before you go to sleep, and after you are both awake, start the day with a hug and cuddling. Touching her is a very simple way to reassure her that you love her as much as she loves you. Indulge her as often as you can when awake, and she might not mind leaving you to your sleep.

Best Wishes

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