Hi..I just don't know where to begin Met a man 3 years
ago. Thought I was in love again. Things began to change little by little. He became
insulting, no compliments, cheap, called my daughter names and hates her, (she is 34 and
married..we are VERY close) resents me seeing my grandchild. Makes fun of my clothes.
Threatens to leave me all the time and accuses me of affairs that never existed.
Told his kids I was a stripper in the past (never), accused me of being a
prostitute in the past (never), I helped him open his new restaurant and he expected me to
work for free 12 hours a day. Said family was expected. He then was my fiancé. Little by
little he even resented the food I cooked because people would compliment and he wanted
the credit. He is so lazy; I use to mop around him as he watched. I walked out one day
because he called me a "b", told me to get the "f" out of his
restaurant and go find a job. He did this at least 5 times in 6 months.
He brought friends in and stood around and laughed as I took
care of cleaning and cooking there. Eventually my phone was turned off. I became ill and
needed $10.00 for a script. He said no, but gave his friends a new freezer and paid for
another's cell phone. He claims he loves me with all his heart. I have not seen my friends
for three years. My son in law hates him for the way he treated me and still does. He is
losing his business now..guess his head got big and the slave was not there anymore to
clean and cook. Health dept. came down on him and people stopped coming. One time I passed
out from the heat and an argument in the kitchen. I begged for an ambulance when I awoke
on the floor. He would not let the kid working for him at $10 / hr call for me. He left me
on the floor until someone saw me there. Ambulance was there, he whispered in my ear that
I was a GD fake. Paramedics took vitals and I was dehydrated and BP way low. Took me to
hospital and all the neighborhood looked at him out there watching me go on a stretcher in
the ambulance with a grin on his face...did not even come near me. Did not even call to
see how I was.
I had three similar incidents with him like this. Began
having panic attacks, began antidepressants. This is not me, I am college educated,
masters in science....love my family, good home...holy cats, I sound like a stupid idiot
now that I have put it in words. I was not speaking to him New Year's. He came to my house
and I was out with family. We have nextel radios that he can instantly reach me. I was not
home, so he must have gone out. All of a sudden I heard on the radio, "Hey
"b" leave me and him alone" - a female swearing at me. Him saying
terrible things to me and his friends laughing the background. He criticizes my makeup,
hair, clothes, etc. He made up with me a couple days later, saying it was his
buddies wife that did him the favor to tell me those things. He was mad cause I was not
home. He's not the cheating type and I recognized the male voices in the background. Now
he is down and out, has no friend. (bums) that he turned on me with. Now I am back at
college and am opening up a daycare center with my daughter. Gosh, I'm out of here. I
never want to speak to him again, What's your opinion?
I know this is long but I really let out some steam. Thank
you and God bless you for hearing us all out.P>S> I'm not a bad looking woman,
ex-model, jazz dancer.....To hell with him.
Fed up and Gone
Dear Fed Up and Gone:
Good for you, and good luck with your new life.
