Dear At the Fence:

My boyfriend who has lived with me now for one year, and who has been divorced now for a year, continues to receive his ex-spouse's utility
bills at my address-that still are in his name.

He has not made it mandatory for her to change  these utilities into her name, she received the marital home in the divorce settlement, although the mortgage itself still remains in his name for a four year period, the years left of which he has to pay her alimony.  It bothers me that  he doesn't see any thing wrong with leaving things as is.  She does not work, and does ask for extra money beyond what her monthly alimony amount is. 

Am I being petty?

Dear Am I being petty?

If you were in her position, how would you want him to treat you? Marriage requires obligations which sometimes carry beyond the end of the marriage. Be glad he is a man who honors his obligations and does not stick to the absolute mininum that he is required to do.

Best Wishes

 

 

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