Dear At the Fence:

My mom has recently expressed her concern to me about my 14 year-old brother who only seems to spend time with girls. He gets along with, and on occasion plays with, boys in the neighborhood and is well liked by his male cousins of the same age. However, his closest friend is a girl 2 years younger and his next closest is her sister, who is also 14.

He says he has many friends at his high school whom we just haven't met, and he does chat with people on the internet often. He is also on a baseball team and is pretty good. He is also very small for his age though and we are wondering though if his comfort in spending time with girls stems from that. He is more secure. We hate to ask about it and hurt his feelings, but can't help but worry. We're hoping it's just a phase. What do you think?

Concerned

Dear Concerned:

I'd say a 14 year old male who spends his time with girls is not insecure. He's probably well into puberty and seeks out girls because he likes them. Because teens are becoming sexually active at an earlier and earlier age, be sure someone has had a talk with him about sex.

I'd say this family needs to talk more.

Best Wishes

 

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