Dear At the Fence:
My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. He is 22
and I am 26. He decided to go to police training school and for 3 months I only saw him on
the weekends and when he graduated in May of 2004, the next day we moved in together.
We got along great for 2 months and the fighting started
because I would get mad about any little thing, like the dogs going to the bathroom on the
carpet, little stuff that I didn't need to be mad about.
We were the couple that everyone wanted to be, so in love it
made people sick!! He is a great guy and was always was there for me and my 7 year old
daughter. Finally one night I guess he had enough and broke up with me. I moved out 2
weeks later. The night before I moved he started crying, he wasn't happy with the fighting
but didn't want to lose us, but he said that we needed time apart to figure out who we
were and what kind of person we wanted.
We talked for about 2 weeks calling and texting each other,
then one day nothing. I would wait for him to call and he didn't. All he can say is his
feelings for me haven't changed and he doesn't know what he wants. This hurts more than I
can say in words!!! I just need help on do I need to let go for now or ever? I just have a
feeling he will come back, I just do not know when. What should I do????
Help!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Help!!!!!!!!:
Let go. Get on with your life. The only way this would work
out would be if the two of you went to counseling together and worked on the issues in the
relationship. But, I think he got in over his head. You're older with a half grown
daughter and that is a big load to carry and he simply may not be ready for it.
Of course it hurts. Breaking up always does. But, try to
learn from this failure.
Take a look at why you were angry. Anger comes from
somewhere, usually inside. It's there, caused by something, simmering and bubbling, and
then we let it out in response to something totally unconnected with the source of the
anger.
Give some thought to the qualities that are important to you
in a mate. Realize that it takes time to really know someone enough to judge whether or
not they would make a good longtime mate.
Blessings
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