Dear At the
Fence:
I am getting married in 8 months, and we are in the middle of deciding where to live.
My mother in-law found a house nearby and wants us to live there. She is
paying for half of the house, but the mortgage payment will still be $3000 per month.
I make double my fiancé's salary, and I know that I would have to pay at least
half of the mortgage. However, the house will only be owned by her and my fiancé.
I am not happy with the situation. I feel like if I will be
contributing financially to this house, my name should appear on the deed as well.
It's frustrating that she expects us to pay a large mortgage on a house that my fiancé
and I did not choose.
I don't mind the fact that my fiancé does not make as much
money as I do, but I hate it that he lets his mother make all these decision for us
without asking. I feel like she has no respect for me and our marriage.
However, my fiancé does not see my point and we are fighting over this issue. What
should I do?
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated:
RUN!!!!!
I'm not kidding. This woman is too controlling and if you
agree to this, she will run your life from A to Z. If your fiance is too wimpy to
understand that this is wrong and will not draw the line with his mother, he's probably
not a good choice for a life mate.
Please don't let them talk you into this. A married couple
should own a home together and if mom wants to help out financially, she can do that
without having her name on the deed. I'd say you will be much better off in a home the two
of you can afford than letting his mom 'help' you.
Blessings
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