Dear At the Fence:

Our 23 year old son e-mailed us and told us not to e-mail, call, write, or send packages to him.  He married 1 year ago.  His wife has been uncomfortable around us.  We have only seen him 2 times since he got married and talked to him about 4 times.

He has not answered any of our correspondence.   He has 3 hurting siblings and 2 hurting parents missing him plus a large extended family.  He was raised in a strong Christian home and is a very bright person. We don't know how to endure this loss.

Cut Off Family

Dear Cut Off Family:

Unfortunately this is not uncommon. You may be right that it is the result of his wife's influence. He may have felt that in order to keep peace in his home, he had to cut you off. If so, this is a choice he has made.

But, are you sure that he sent the email? He at least owes you a direct communication so that you know he was the one making this decision. It is possible she is intercepting your communications. If she is controlling him, it may be that he will wake up and realize what she is doing.

If you are positive that he did tell you not to contact him, there is little you can do. Pray for him and his wife. Ask God to give you peace about this. Many people go through such separations in their families that are eventually healed. Try to focus on the others in your family and enjoy each other.

Best Wishes

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